We asked mistresses of modern manners, Kay Plunkett-Hogge and Debora Robertson for their field guide to good behavior for pets and their owners.  Plus, we share our tips for living with pets and keeping your home fragrant and fur-free.

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1. De-hair sofas and chairs before guests come over

You should also warn new visitors if there are animals in the house, in case they have allergies - could pet hair be the reason why your friends hate your house?  For seats, soft furnishings and rugs, a reusable lint remover is a blessing. A rubber broom or microfiber and electrostatic mops quickly collect hair on hard floors; for carpets, try running a damp rubber squeegee or gloves over before vacuuming. It’s worth investing in vacuums that specialize in tackling pet hair; it should also come equipped with a HEPA filter, which removes allergens from the rooms, including pet dander. Keep washing machines and dryers running smoothly by scooping any hair out of the drum or filter at the end of a cycle. See: Interior designer Emma Sims-Hilditch reveals how to make a home pet friendly – and super stylish

2. Protect upholstery from claws

Don’t let dogs climb all over the furniture if you’re visiting a friend.  At home, preventative measures such as scratching posts and boards will divert your dog or cat from its usual clawing target. Top the sofa with a cotton futon cushion or The Lounging Hound (opens in new tab)’s luxe velvet and wool toppers as a smart alternative to blankets.  Investing in a new sofa? Look for Aquaclean (opens in new tab) fabric – the pet-friendly fabric is stain and scratch resistant. Spritz a deterrent spray on throws or cushions to put pets off from climbing on altogether.  Giving your pet its own comfortable bed – in a style that fits with your decor – can help you both feel happy in your own space.

3. Ban dogs from the lurking when you have friends for dinner

No one wants a wet nose snuffling at their toes, searching for leftovers and dropped crumbs. If you’re visiting friends, ask if it’s okay to bring your dogs to lunch/dinner/for the weekend so they have the option of saying ’no’. Living with pets isn’t for everyone.

See: Dining room ideas – inspiration for decorating and furnishing your space

4. Clean up accidents

Spray with one cup of water, white vinegar and two teaspoons of bicarbonate of soda, blot dry after five minutes.  Lavender, chamomile and frankincense are calming for the whole household, but use essential oils with caution as these can be toxic if ingested.

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5. Keep pet food out of sight

If storage is tight or you buy food in bulk, decant dry food, pouches and treats into jars and containers that look smart on a shelf or worktop. For curious paws fit a childproof latch on low cupboards or ensure any cleaners or chemicals are stored out of reach.  Wipeable mats under food bowls can be given a swift wipe to keep food smells in check. When washing bedding or blankets, add a liquid water softener such as Calgon or half a cup of white vinegar to the cycle.

6. Keep your dog on a lead in a crowded place

Some folks are scared of dogs – even if you think yours looks like a Disney princess. Don’t let your dog bound up to another dog when it’s on a lead; ask permission from the owner. The same applies if you want to pet someone else’s dog. You don’t know the other dog’s story – it may be the nervous sort or a bit snappy.

8. Be careful when pets and children meet

Your pet may not want the loving attention of a small child. And youngsters may be nervous of meeting your pet. If you’ve a cute dog, you’re likely to be faced with children desperate to pet them. But always check with their grown-up if it’s okay first. For cats, rabbits and other cute and furry friends, be guided by your animal’s welfare and behavior. If they’re nervous, it’s best to move them to another room when you have little visitors, so your pet feels safe and secure.

See: 10 pet-friendly house plants – to keep cats and dogs safe

9. Check restaurants are pet friendly

Check a restaurant or cafe’s dog policy before you go. If your dog is allowed in, make sure they’re securely on a leash and won’t trip anyone up. Give your pooch something to eat before you head out – imagine watching someone eat and being ever so hungry yourself. Have snacks to reward their good behavior.

10 Keep smells at bay with home fragrance

Light a candle or use a diffuser to disguise the occasional whiff from your pet. This Home Scenter Pets collection candle from Wax Lyrical (opens in new tab) is specifically designed for the purpose. Find more of the best home fragrances in our tried and tested buyer’s guide.

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